Are Men Just Funnier Than Women?

The I In First Person, Or Is That X

Last week, I asked (not rhetorically, because I pretend to be an equal opportunities blogger) do people really want to put their lives on(the)line? Or do they do so only because they feel pressurised, because there might be no audience if they don’t?

During the course of this general outpouring, I got to thinking about women and men, and how women seem to do the vast majority of this type of confessional journalism. Women are far more likely to write about personal things, I thought. We’re also under more pressure to write about ourselves and our interior worlds, if we want to be heard. It’s not so much the “I” in First Person, as the “X”.

Whether we can only be trusted to write about our interior worlds because we’re not worldly-wise enough to write about grander, humanity-defining subjects, or because we’re ravenous for the personal angle in the first place, is a grand, humanity-defining question, says I to myself.

Comedians Are From Mars

But then I got to thinking, that’s not right, either. It’s not as simple as that. True, women do more personal writing. But I was on the bus yesterday (spoiler alert: this is a true confession), and the guy next to me was watching a video of a stand-up comedian on his phone.

That was when I realised. Stand-up comedy is men’s confessional journalism. They may use comedy to distance themselves from their most intimate secrets (whilst telling you about them), but the families and partners of stand-up comedians know that nothing is sacred. They, as well as their partner, will be flayed in the course of a set. Their personal tragedies are joke fodder.

The I In First Person, Or Is That X

There’s Fabulous Equality in Intrusion

Over the past few decades, there’s been a simultaneous shift towards writers putting themselves at the heart of the story, and comedians turning their personal lives into sets.

Here’s a bit of background I learned from a seasoned old ship dog, on a journalism course I did once. He was a veteran of foreign press agencies and had a wicked tongue when it came to his students (but that’s enough colour being used to disguise info-dumping).

He said that so-called “colour” journalism wasn’t really a thing until the 1960s, when it began to be used in order to give an otherwise clinical news piece a sense of atmosphere. It was popularly used illustrate the mood of the people, in articles about social upheaval and civil rights movements of the time.

Over the next couple of decades, this grew legs, when journalists began talking about how they themselves felt about the atmosphere around them, or their interview subject. They introduced their own beliefs into their articles, discussing how they were challenged or upheld by the subject at hand.

In no time at all, confessional journalism had been invented: and then came the internet, and before we knew it, our angst-ridden diaries were legitimate reading material.

At the same time as all of this was happening, a new breed of stand-up was born – usually male – who instead of telling jokes, made a joke of themselves.

 

That’s Nice, Tara. But What The Hell Has That Got To Do With The Theme At Hand

The motivation behind this shift to the personal is the same for each gender. Both men and women are mining their lives for material, in order to get noticed.

And whilst women seem to be identified most with writing about personal stuff, men are doing it just as much, albeit in a different style. According to a scientific study I made up twenty minutes ago, the vast majority of male bloggers I know, who write about their personal lives, are using humour to distance themselves from it.

Incidentally, the average male blogger would seem to be far quicker than me to label their blog as a ‘Humour’ blog. I’m sure there’s another study in that.

 

Are Women Not Funny?

Why do men’s personal stories come out in comedy, when women adopt a more serious, emotional tone? Can women not be funny? Can men not be serious?

I don’t have the answer to that. (And if you thought I did, you’re on the wrong blog.) But I wonder if female stand-ups struggle more professionally because people tend to take them too seriously. It’s not that they’re not funny. It’s more like they’re being listened to as though they couldn’t possibly see the joke themselves.

Could it be that men are seen to be funnier, because so many people grow up with mothers being all serious about eating your greens and going to sleep, while our fathers get to pun around about botty burps and beer?

The Homework For Today

I’d like you to look inside yourselves. Bring a torch. Some of you might like to bring satnav, and a packed lunch. Up to you.

When you’re reading women, do you assume they’re being serious? Are you quicker to see the humour in a man’s writing? Or are women just not writing enough comedy?

Answers on a sheet of bog roll please, telepathically transmitted to the comments section. I thank you.

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  63 comments for “Are Men Just Funnier Than Women?

  1. May 5, 2016 at 8:11 am

    Personally, Tara, I find women hilarious — a frequent source of laughter. But I think you dissemble: comedians aren’t the people most likely to give away the most precious secrets of their nearest and dearest. That award goes to writers. Like me and…well. Need I continue?

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    • May 5, 2016 at 8:56 am

      I don’t know, John. The distance which comedy gives a body can often lead them to balance on the very edge of rawness. I’ve watched many a comedian and felt slightly uncomfortable because I felt they were too close to it. Possibly because so many of them are bloody depressed!

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  2. May 5, 2016 at 8:39 am

    I agree there aren’t enough female comics and stand-ups on the TV etc but there’s no difference in the quality of the ones I see and the men. Restricted opportunity rather than talent methinks. Or is that too serious?

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    • May 5, 2016 at 8:59 am

      But where does the restricted opportunity stem from? I reckon it’s because they’re not seen to be as funny, and therefore marketable/in demand. It’s the chicken and the egg, isn’t it?

      And yes. That was terribly serious, Geoff. Can we lift it all with a pun of some sort?

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      • May 5, 2016 at 2:05 pm

        Chicken and egg? It’s certainly no yoke.

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        • May 5, 2016 at 2:14 pm

          Masterful 😀

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          • May 7, 2016 at 1:52 am

            From the little I know about stand up comedy it’s pretty brutal. Maybe most women aren’t into being heckled for years before making it. It always seems that women stand-ups are of the tough broad type. I wouldn’t mind some girly comedy though. I was just thinking of the women who did Absolutely Fabulous–now they were funny.

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            • May 8, 2016 at 10:34 pm

              Stand-up may be brutal Adrienne, I agree, but it’s not the only route into comedy. I was just wondering if women get a harder time in stand-up because people assume they’re less funny to begin with and get heckled worse as a result. It’s something that’s impossible to prove really.

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              • May 8, 2016 at 10:52 pm

                But fun to think about. I think women have more of an emotional ( or relational? Not exactly sure what I’m saying here)range so they “get” comedy done by men and women. Men get some of what women are about but don’t always find it funny. 🙂 Just a theory and no snipe at men–I love them.

                I know a lot of funny women but some men just stare at them. haha.

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  3. May 5, 2016 at 9:51 am

    You’ve probably figured out by now that I’m always serious. The first self-deprecating observational comedian I came across was Jasper Carrott in the mid-Seventies. Surrounded by stand up comedians like Frank Carson and Ken Goodwin, Carrott was waffling on about decorating table lamps with pebbledash. I’m sure there’s a PhD study in there somewhere.

    And is it possible that women went into comedy through film and television rather than stand-up? I dunno. At the risk of sounding cliched, I take every comedian on their own merits, regardless of being male or female. The majority of the current crop of male comedians don’t move me at all, but I have strong views on contemporary comedy which I might blog about myself. (I’d have to charge a fee to mention those views here.)

    To be honest, I was totally distracted after you said you were on a bus. I always imagined you being chauffeur driven everywhere. Don’t know why.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 11:08 am

      An interesting question, Chris… I think women do gravitate more to film and TV than stand-up. But I suppose I’m not really talking about stand-up specifically, as much as comedy in general. And when it comes to film and TV, with a handful of notable exceptions such as Victoria Wood, Tina Fey and Amy Schumer, the numbers of women involved there are still pathetic. The barrier exists nonetheless.

      Sorry about the bus comment. I should have mentioned it was my bus and I beat the driver regularly.

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  4. May 5, 2016 at 11:48 am

    You realize you could apply for a grant to ponder these questions, right? Don’t run all these studies for free!

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  5. May 5, 2016 at 12:51 pm

    Jane Austen might appear polite on the surface but come on, she’s really taking the piss.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 2:15 pm

      Correct and right, Kathy. I’m not sure how many people realise that, though.

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  6. May 5, 2016 at 1:21 pm

    Tara, as you probably know, I got my start writing standup, and I still do standup for conferences, usually as the after-dinner entertainment. Years ago, when I taught humour writing in college, I was involved in research that was quite eye-opening. Our conclusions (this was the 90s, mind you): People expect women to be self-deprecating in their humour (Phyllis Diller is a great example.) Male comics tended to be more sarcastic. They poked fun at other people. What we noted in comedy clubs: when a woman comic at a place like Yuk-Yuks was extremely sarcastic (like the men before her had been) there was a beat of silence before the laughter, as if the audience wasn’t sure they were supposed to find it funny. I still find the most laughs I get on stage is when I poke fun at myself. People will ‘accept’ that from an older woman.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 2:22 pm

      That’s fascinating, Melodie, and seems to go along with the theory that women are usually taken seriously in the literal sense. I know Joan Rivers made a good living out of sarcasm, but she had to fight bloody hard for it. Jo Brand was vilified for making jokes about men, I seem to recall. So we’re back to the interior life for wimmens (although I believe general jokes about PMT are perfectly acceptable).

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  7. May 5, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    OK, there’s a lot going on in this post, and it’s all interesting stuff, so I want to comment.

    I think writers and comics have always mined their personal lives for humor, but it’s only recently been acceptable for men to explore the more vulnerable (what your calling “confessional”) aspects of their lives, where women have done this all along.

    Eh, I could go on and on about this—I guess I’ll just add that there is still a lot of sexism that influences how we react to female writers/performers, even here in the 21st century.

    Finally, let’s not discount our own personal experience and how that influences which writers/performers we value. I once wrote a bit about a gynecologist appointment and that’s never going to resonate with a male audience (I don’t think. Maybe I’m wrong).

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    • May 5, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      I don’t see why your gynaecologist experiences can’t be as funny as Billy Connolly talking about his prostate. It’s not the sort of thing I’d seek out, true (prostate comedy), but nothing will stop me laughing at something funny, no matter who’s saying it or what the subject is.

      I think the leading female lights of comedy would definitely agree with you that sexism still abounds. Look at all that to-do over Bridesmaids, as though they’d reinvented the wheel or something. What I heard from that was “OMG! Look! A comedy written by and starring wimmen – and it’s funny!!! Can you believe it?!”

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      • Ruth Harris
        May 5, 2016 at 6:04 pm

        Hell, Pres Obama indulged in prostate comedy this week at the WH Correspodents’ Dinner. Re the notorious “3 AM phone call,” he said no prob, he’d be up already…to go to the bathroom.

        If we have a female press maybe the WHCD will be treated to menstruation, menopause and gyno humor. Why not? Especially now that there’s a movement to make tampons tax free. 🙂

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        • May 5, 2016 at 8:47 pm

          I did laugh at that Obama joke, Ruth! What a great speech all in all. Perhaps you’re right, that’s the way to go And toilet humour. After all, it’s worked for the Republicans, hasn’t it? Hang on. Do I mean potty mouth? I get so confused sometimes.

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  8. May 5, 2016 at 2:34 pm

    Why have you exposed me Sparling? It’s not funny, you know.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 3:22 pm

      Oh it is though, Conor. Rip-roaring, in fact. It’s actually listed under “LOLs” in the dictionary. You can cover up now.

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  9. May 5, 2016 at 2:37 pm

    I haven’t noticed a difference in the humor between men and women. In fact, I probably follow more hilarious women (yourself included) in blogsville than I do men. I think women are still better at sharing emotions, so there will be more personal posts from women.

    That leads me to wonder what all the men are sharing (?). A quick scientific study I just made up reveals that the non-comedian blogs by men are sharing poems, prose, photos, music, WIPs, info, more info, and some more info (history, travel, wine, food, you name it as long as it’s info). 😀

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    • May 5, 2016 at 3:24 pm

      I might need to get my DNA checked, Diana. I’ve checked my blog and all I’m getting is some info, much pontificating, no personal sharing at all. Do you think they’ll revoke my Woman Card?

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  10. May 5, 2016 at 2:40 pm

    Hmm… I read the post earlier and wasn’t sure what I thought, so I went away and did something else. Then I came back to it again, but I still wasn’t sure what I thought. I’ve decided just to start writing a comment anyway and I await with interest what I end up saying.

    I’m afraid I hardly ever watch stand-up comedy or comedy TV shows, so I can’t really say much about them. I do read a lot of humor, especially since I’ve started blogging. I don’t think I react very differently when reading jokes by men and those by women. Some people make me laugh and some don’t, but I think it comes down to personal style more than anything else. I certainly don’t roar with abandon at jokes written by men but scrutinize jokes written by women for some deeper meaning.

    I was interested in the point made by Melodie about self-deprecation and sarcasm and perhaps what she says is true in general. On the other hand, when I think about the people whose blogs I most enjoy, some of the male ones are often self deprecating and some of the female ones can be pretty sarcastic.

    I think I’ll end here, though. I find it difficult to comment on a post about humor. It makes me very self-conscious about every sentence I write. It’s like having someone explain in management training about the importance of looking interested without staring. Suddenly everybody becomes aware of eye contact and so their eyeballs start whirling about wildly in their sockets.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 2:48 pm

      I have been in that meeting.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 3:28 pm

      I’ve been in that meeting too. More than once. I now have a twitch.

      Perhaps the blogosphere is one of the few truly democratic and egalitarian parts of life, Bun. Whilst I see a pattern for male bloggers using humour in their personal stories more than women, it doesn’t seem like people approach blogs with too many preconceived gender notions. Mainstream comedy, now, on the other hand, is a different kettle of fish entirely.

      And now I’m hungry.

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      • May 5, 2016 at 3:45 pm

        I think you’re very likely right about mainstream comedy, especially on TV. It’s a medium that seems particularly prone to stereotyping. Anyway, hope you enjoy your fish.

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  11. May 5, 2016 at 2:47 pm

    Unfortunately, there continues to be a double standard when it comes to how women with opinions are perceived versus men. Too sarcastic and a woman risks coming off as bitchy. Too raw or raunchy, her unladylike material may encourage other females to distance themselves from her as to not appear guilty by association as well as males either desperate not to offend their lady friends or made uncomfortable by too much talk about on ‘lady issues.’

    However, for the record, more than half of the humor blogs I read on a regular basis are written by females. Women be funny.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 3:37 pm

      They do be funny most certainly, Allie. And not always on purpose, which puts them on a completely equal footing with men, I find.

      I reckon some of the more risqué comedy will become the norm after a while. Bill Hicks was subversive and ground-breaking in his day but shock comedy is mainstream now. The Amy Schumers et al are forging the way quite nicely.

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  12. May 5, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    My students think I’m hilarious, probably when I’m being serious. It is middle school. My parents were funny and my children got a lighter side of my parenting skills. They are grown up & clearly survived. I’d’ rather have fun and laugh than be serious and *teach* or *parent*. Or *work*. Argh.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 4:14 pm

      I’d rather be on a beach, Victoria, but that’s not happening any time soon. In the meantime, I suggest setting your students 3 surprise exams per day. That’ll learn them not to take you seriously. 😉

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  13. May 5, 2016 at 6:00 pm

    I was going to say – 2 words ‘Jo’ and ‘Brand’ but I say she’s already come up in conversation. However,. in defence of her ‘vilifying men’ I simply say – that’s what you get for centuries of mother-in-law jokes.
    I think it’s nothing to do with gender or even stand-up in particular – comedians just naturally take the p*ss out of themselves and those around them, always have, always will… It’s just a matter of personal choice and whether you like to laugh more than moan?
    And laughing takes the sting out of the deeply personal – maybe the question is, who’s more courageous? 😛

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    • May 5, 2016 at 8:44 pm

      I reckon there’s no need to defend Jo Brand, Jan. It was a very (very) special kind of detractor who had a problem with her and I don’t think either of us would be inviting them round for supper. As for courage – all stand-ups have equally insane amounts, I would think, but regarding other types of comedy, perhaps it’s persistence?

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  14. annerallen
    May 5, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    I agree that the culture generally doesn’t accept that women can be funny. People love to take every word we say literally, no matter how many laughs or eyerolls accompany them.

    The culture seems to be going backwards on this. Dorothy Parker was considered hilarious 90 years ago. Today she might be booed out of the publishing industry. How dare she make fun of women’s feelings? Those situations she writes about are so sad and embarrassing!

    I’ve discovered I have to label all my books “comedies” in several places on the cover and metadata to even have a fighting chance at reaching the right audience (who mostly seem to be men, although what I write might be labeled “chick lit”)

    Even so, most of my reviews mention the fact the situations are “unrealistic” and “over the top”. Has anybody ever said that about PG Wodehouse? Or Carl Hiaasen?

    I’m glad to see Melodie Campbell left a comment. She writes funny books too, and sometimes gets the same kind of brainless reviews I get. People seem to think women should only be allowed to write realistic, serious novels, and comedy is a male-only preserve. Funny how many of these people are women and claim to be feminists.

    Let’s hope that the great women comics who are just coming into their own, like Tina Fey, Samantha Bee and Amy Schumer will start turning things around.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 8:51 pm

      Is the reach and scale of the market the problem, perhaps, Anne? When Dorothy Parker was writing, her audience was select. Nowadays, we can be misunderstood by large pockets of society who would never have any intention of reading our stuff in the normal scheme of things. They can even get offended by it. Isn’t that great?!

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  15. May 5, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    I think comedy — stand up, in particular — offers the distance of humor to keep it less intimate. A comedian can talk about his wife, his family, himself, and no one knows for sure just how much of it is true. Lots of safety in the distance offered by that.

    Since men — per scientific studies done, apparently, by notable scientists — are purportedly less inclined toward intimacy than women, it makes sense that they would gravitate toward a less intimate form of confessional expression.

    Women, more comfortable with soul-baring, can get down to it in any format, comedic or otherwise. Look how funny you are here!

    So women aren’t less funny; they just avail themselves of the many more options at hand than men do. That’s my scientific theory.

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    • May 5, 2016 at 8:54 pm

      True dat, Lorraine. The problem female comics face is part being taken literally or seriously, part expectation of intimacy. I like the idea that we have more options available to us, though. You’ve won me over with the optimistic angle (not to mention the fact that you got several hundred thousand bonus points for the compliment obviously)

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  16. May 6, 2016 at 9:28 am

    When I started blogging I was accused of being a bloke, and people are occasionally still disappointed to find out that I’m not – at times I feel very awkward about this as I don’t like disappointing people…. and then I think what the heck, it’s not my problem.
    Sx

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    • May 6, 2016 at 8:18 pm

      How could it possibly be a disappointment that you’re not a bloke, Scarlet? And what has gender got to do with calligraphy and funny stories anyway?! People are strange. And then you write about them, and other people don’t believe you.

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  17. armenpogharian
    May 6, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    A few less than professional thoughts. I’ve always thought of humor as an intellectual thing. I don’t mean that it’s all high-brow, but rather the ability to find humor in things or to respond with a quick retort is connected to intelligence. As such men use humor to show off their intelligence to women. Women suppress their humor because on some level they don’t want men to think they’re too smart. I actually had a very smart female friend of mine make me aware of this second point. If that bothers you on some level, how about this explanation – since a lot of stand-up humor comes from self-reflection, perhaps men just have much more material to choose from.

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    • May 6, 2016 at 8:49 pm

      I’d agree with you on the first part, Armen: not so much on the second. I don’t know whether women suppress their humour for the reason you say necessarily – I believe rather that a good sense of humour is the most attractive trait a man can have, from a woman’s perspective, but it’s much further down the list the other way round. However, when it comes to self-reflection, there’s no gender difference at all. Both men and women do the same amount of it. They simply differ on how much they believe it goes on in the other sex.

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      • armenpogharian
        May 6, 2016 at 9:09 pm

        I take your point about a sense of humor wrt attractiveness. The second half of mine was simply there based on anecdotal information from a good friend of mine. Your phrasing/logic was closer to the mark. As for the self-reflection bit. I wasn’t commenting about the quantity or quality of it based on sex. Rather I was attempting to be mildly humorous about men having more comedic material when they look deeply into the mirror. Given that I whiffed, I suspect you now find me less attractive. 🙂

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        • May 6, 2016 at 11:12 pm

          Ah, I understand what you meant now! How’s that for a gender-al misreading. As for your last comment, I couldn’t possibly answer. Where would the feminine mystique be then?!

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  18. May 9, 2016 at 9:27 am

    I think you have the mother thing right, but I wonder if there isn’t simply a big dose of misogyny in there too. Men set themselves up to be funny, to be the centre of attention, to have people laugh with them. Women are not supposed to be the centre of attention in the, everybody gather round, I’m going to entertain you, sort of way, they are supposed to be modest, upright, irreproachable and edifying, and if they step out of line and try and do something men are supposed to do best (like driving or telling jokes) we are supposed to snigger at them, not with them. Comics like Jerry Lewis, Norman Wisdom and the Frank character in the British sit com I forget its name, stand out because they are so sickeningly awful, ridiculous and pathetic. Yet they always, no matter how unrealistic or how much it made people like me vomit, got the glamorous woman in the end.

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    • May 9, 2016 at 11:55 am

      I suppose the only thing that will change the frame of reference regarding centre of attention, Jane, is people putting themselves at the centre, and I don’t think women are afraid of that anymore. Comedy has changed a lot – the misogynistic dinosaur comedy of the 60s and 70s is dead as a doornail, with the really cultish comedy now being either gross-out (for both sexes, since Bridesmaids anyway) or surreal. I suppose most people now accept the maxim that Funny Women Are Funny. But getting crowned as a funny woman in the first instance – now there’s the rub!

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  19. May 9, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    Another cracking discussion, Tara. Had me tripping over my own thoughts. If generalising, I reckon men, and comedy critics, seem to view male “confessional” sharing as philosophical reflections on the human condition; while the wimmin’s reflections are often consigned to the fairly narrow and frequently sniffed at batch of “confessional” laughs. There’s a subtle difference in the levels of respectability and philosophical worthiness at play that’s fairly significant. My current comedy crush is Sharon Horgan. There’s much that’s uncomfortable about her comedic take on parenting, say, (among other things) but how is that less worthy of reflection or sharing than Dylan Moran’s articulate musings on aging? I think the term ‘confessional’ is a fairly loaded one, and subjective. I happened to see Dylan Moran, Stewart Lee, and Tommy Tiernan in the same week this time last year, and despite taking routes to garner their laughs, all of them relied on their domestic set-up and their stage of life (mid-40s) is probably fair game than it would be for the young floppy-haired blokes bouncing round the festival circuits. And your point about comedy being a broad form is so spot on. And some folk use the tag very cleverly. To me, Caitlin Moran is first and foremost a humourist – her shows follow the stand-up form, but she’s chosen the feminist tag for her “confessional” take. And that eh..ends my haphazard point.

    Loved this post. We need a pub. Quick.

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    • May 9, 2016 at 1:55 pm

      Completely agree on the male take as philosophy angle, Tenderlation. This happens in books, too, as I’ve bleated about before. When a man writes about family, it’s important and enlightening; when a woman does, it’s kitchen-sink romance. And Sharon Horgan is a fecking genius. I love the way she pushes it right to the edge of blackness and you’re still laughing. Too many people go over into the dark and just leave you squirming. I’m sure there’s a name for it, but it’s not comedy per se. Julia Davis for instance. Camping, her new show, I watched entirely through my fingers… I reckon 60% of Caitlin Moran’s humour comes from just being incredibly, incredibly smart, and being able to riff on it.

      And there you go, teasing me with a pub behind the veil of anonymity, Tenderlation. When are you going to follow up?? Hmmm???

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      • May 10, 2016 at 10:52 am

        Some day I’ll freak you out with an accidental collision at the bar *evil laugh*

        Haven’t seen Camping, but Nighty Night had be sinking in the seat. That’s it – the delicate act of leading of leading them towards the dark and without leaving them stranded.

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        • May 10, 2016 at 9:35 pm

          Great way of putting it, Specuness. Leading us towards the dark but not leaving us stranded. I’m going to use that repeatedly and pretend I came up with it. It’ll be retribution for spilling my pint, you philistine.

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  20. May 9, 2016 at 1:17 pm

    I can’t help it if I’m funny, Tara. After all, I was born with this face. 🙂

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  21. May 13, 2016 at 4:15 pm

    I’m tempted to think men use humour to get a fast reaction at a superficial level, quick fire, keep the lads chortling stuff. Whereas women, although they may also see the humour, sense the feelings behind it and want to turn these into a short story or even a novel which may be humorous in places, but which wants to connect at a deeper level. I’m sure I’ll be accused of not appreciating men’s humour, but much of that in the past was certainly based on pathetic jokes about wives or mother-in-laws. Women would never have stooped to ridiculing their husbands or father-in-laws (?)

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    • May 13, 2016 at 5:14 pm

      Maybe, Dorothy. I think the primary motivation for comedy is to hide behind it, though. Saves them (us – I include myself in this) from getting too raw. Thankfully comedy has moved on a huge amount from mothers-in-law. Mainly into the toilet, granted, but a big step nonetheless.

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