Excuse Me While Real Life Takes Over A Bit


To all of you lovely people accustomed to stopping by my blog on any kind of a regular basis, I just want to say hello, and ask you to bear with me.

For the first time since I began blogging in 2013, I need to take a little break. My wonderful and most excellent Dad passed away on April 17th. It will take me a little time to get back to writing. Perhaps a little more time to poke fun at things again.

So if you’ll excuse me while I turn my head inside out and figure out where the humour now lies, I’ll be back.

He really was most excellent, by the way. He’d even read my blog once or twice. And made sure to shake his head at it when I wasn’t looking.

  64 comments for “Excuse Me While Real Life Takes Over A Bit

  1. May 5, 2019 at 10:31 am

    So sorry to read this, Tara. Put yourself first.
    Love Sxxx

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  2. May 5, 2019 at 10:40 am

    Bummer Tara. Never easy. Take your time natch and the humour will come esp. When he sits on your shoulder and tells you to get on with it, shaking his head. I know. Mine’s there now, laughing at dog farts. As ever. See you back here when he’s got himself, and you, settled

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    • May 12, 2019 at 12:57 pm

      Thanks so much Geoff. A lovely comment the day of his funeral was from an old friend, who said she loved his great wit, “and the way he wouldn’t be afraid to use it against you”. I think he’s been part of my brain since year dot and is highly likely to stay there…


  3. May 5, 2019 at 10:44 am

    So sorry about your loss, Tara. My condolences. Your fabulous humor will be (temporarily) missed.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Will Hahn
    May 5, 2019 at 10:44 am

    It’s an enormous shock, of course, and I understand how you must feel, in part. It does take time.

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 12:58 pm

      It does, Will. He went too soon, and now it seems I have all the time.


  5. May 5, 2019 at 10:49 am

    So sorry to hear that Tara.

    Liked by 2 people

  6. May 5, 2019 at 10:59 am

    Tara you look after yourself. It’s a very tough time. xx

    Liked by 1 person

  7. May 5, 2019 at 11:17 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Tara. It’s tough, though inevitable. And he sounds like a sweet person.

    Liked by 1 person

  8. May 5, 2019 at 12:01 pm

    Thinking of you during this difficult time. It really is pants 😢

    Liked by 1 person

  9. May 5, 2019 at 1:17 pm

    I’m so sorry, Tara. Always remember him.

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 1:31 pm

      He wouldn’t let me forget Marina! Much larger than life ever was.


  10. bertrand
    May 5, 2019 at 1:43 pm

    Sorry for your loss.

    Liked by 1 person

  11. May 5, 2019 at 1:45 pm

    So, so sorry to hear of your loss, Tara. It’s crushing to lose a beloved father, I know. Sending love and empathy from overseas… ❤

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 3:57 pm

      The old clichés hurt the most, Lorraine, but both my folks went too soon. Thank you.


  12. May 5, 2019 at 2:08 pm

    So very sorry for your loss. A hole in one’s heart that is hard to heal.

    Liked by 3 people

  13. Eimhear
    May 5, 2019 at 2:08 pm

    Much love T ❤️❤️❤️

    Liked by 1 person

  14. May 5, 2019 at 4:03 pm

    It is never easy to lose a loved one. Peace.

    Liked by 1 person

  15. May 5, 2019 at 6:07 pm

    Sorry for your loss

    Liked by 1 person

  16. annerallen
    May 5, 2019 at 7:26 pm

    Grief takes many different forms, so do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself while you go through this. The one thing I know is it’s very hard to be funny while you’re in the process. I stopped writing for nearly a year after my dad died, and tons of people told me to toughen up and “just write. ” They were not helpful. I spent a lot of that year gardening and walking on the beach. There’s no wrong way to grieve.

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    • May 12, 2019 at 4:00 pm

      Indeed there isn’t, Anne, and there’s no one way, either. Every grief is different for every person and every loss. I might head back into ‘bleak’ comedy yet, you never know. Thanks for your kind words.


  17. May 5, 2019 at 9:19 pm

    Tara, I’m very sad to read this and so very sorry for the loss of your Dad. You crossed my thoughts this week and I came here to see if you’d anything new. That’s what the ‘strangers’ who matter do.. tug at an aul sleeve we don’t realise we’re wearing. Wishing you some sense of navigation ahead. I’ll be thinking of you. Mind yourself eh.

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    • May 12, 2019 at 4:02 pm

      I appreciate that, Tenderlation. I felt your tug on my sleeve too. Sorry for not replying earlier, my blogging friends deserve better, but I’ve been very busy trying to remember who I am. You know the way. X


  18. May 5, 2019 at 11:06 pm

    My condolences.

    Liked by 1 person

  19. May 6, 2019 at 12:09 am

    Bon Voyage, Tara’s dad. 😦

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  20. May 6, 2019 at 12:52 am

    I lost my Daddy and my Mother in the last couple of years. Please accept my sympathy at this time for you and your family. It is tough – no way around that. Take care of yourself. Much love.

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  21. May 6, 2019 at 7:43 am

    Give yourself more time than you expect – not necessarily time away from blogging or anything else, but time to accept, to grieve, to become a reframed person and to remember all the wonderfulness and excellence of your Dad. Be kind to yourself.

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    • May 12, 2019 at 4:06 pm

      That’s excellent advice, Hilary, and I will be taking it. Appreciate your kind words.

      Liked by 1 person

  22. May 6, 2019 at 10:59 am

    I’m so sorry, Tara. Judging by the wonderful daughter he raised, he was a most excellent person indeed.

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 5:01 pm

      Thanks so much, Nick. He wouldn’t agree with you, but he’d have a mighty glint in his eye while he was at it…

      Liked by 1 person

  23. May 6, 2019 at 1:20 pm

    Sending thoughts your way. You won’t ever get over it, but in time it hurts less.

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  24. May 6, 2019 at 3:08 pm

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

    Liked by 1 person

  25. May 6, 2019 at 8:27 pm

    Big hug and take care Tara Xxxxxxx

    Liked by 1 person

  26. solsdottir
    May 7, 2019 at 3:02 am

    So sorry to hear it. Take your time, and we’ll all still be here when you get back.

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 5:13 pm

      Music to my ears from my longest standing blog buddies – appreciate that so much.

      Liked by 1 person

  27. May 7, 2019 at 1:24 pm

    Sorry for your loss Tara, I was close to my Dad and still miss him terribly after 19 years. It takes a long time to find your joy again but it does come back eventually. xx

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 5:15 pm

      It does, Liberty. I just wish joy didn’t have to go on holidays. I could’ve done with another few years. But such is life. X


  28. Jools
    May 8, 2019 at 6:56 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Tara, and sending warmest thoughts your way. As I learned from when my mum died, the blogosphere is a wellspring of warmth. and good wishes. Deepest condolences.

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 12, 2019 at 5:16 pm

      It really is, Jools. People have been so kind. It’s a wonderful community and thank you for your kind words.

      Liked by 1 person

  29. May 14, 2019 at 3:44 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss x


  30. May 17, 2019 at 2:03 pm

    So sorry to hear this , dear Tara , be good


  31. May 23, 2019 at 7:39 pm

    Condolences on the loss of your Dad. So hard to lose our parents. I hope you take as much time as you need. Grieving is hard work and not to be rushed.

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